Letting Go

How do you let go of someone so close to you?? You know they’re no good for you and probably will never change, but still you can’t let them go? You still hold on to that little sliver of hope that just maybe one day they’ll change. It could be a family member, significant other, bestie whatever, but that person has some type of hold on you. It hurts you, the thought of letting them go even though deep in your heart you know they’ll never change. By holding on, you set yourself up to be let down. That person will use your hope to manipulate you. At the point that you know who a person truly is, the responsibility is no longer on them to stop hurting you, it’s yours. It is your responsibility to cut ties with people who continually hurt you and use your hope to manipulate you. You owe it to yourself to stay surrounded by positive people and those that won’t intentionally hurt you. Knowingly surrounding yourself with negative people, especially those who use you, leads you down a path of self destruction.

I know all of this bc I’ve dealt and still dealing with this myself. I’ll say I’m done, but still answer the phone when they call. I’ll still read and respond to messages. I still feel bad when they give me that same sob story even though I know it’s bull. Maya Angelou said “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”, so idk why I allow people to show me multiple times who they are. I guess bc I always try to see the good in people. Unfortunately for them, I’ve decided I’M DONE ❌❌! I’m slowly starting to learn how to love from a distance. I deserve more than being in a one sided relationship with me always giving and never getting anything back. I can’t stress myself worrying about people anymore. STRESS KILLS if y’all didn’t know. I’ve gone through too much with lupus (I’ll tell y’all about that in another post) to let an inconsiderate person take me out. Plus I have to bless more of the world with this beauty 😘💅🏿💁🏿‍♀️. Let go of extra baggage! It’s just weighing you/us down.